Ugh. Just finished the first week of a cardio interval step
class at the campus rec center and discovered that my toilet is too low.
After class, my usually brisk walk home has turned into a
struggled stroll through the snow-covered sidewalks. My thigh muscles scream as
I ease onto and off of the couch but going for my 1940s toilet requires the
kind of squats I couldn’t get anywhere near in class. Pain and urgency – HELP! I've squatted and I can't get up!
Since the class is on campus you are correct to assume the
majority of participants are 12 --- OK, 20 something (same thing).
You are also correct that their trendy spandex stretches only so far --- around their already toned bodies --- not mine. I’m the
one in the back row in men’s sweats and an oversized t-shirt down to my knees.
Hey, every class needs a Frump Model. I’m helping everyone else in class with
their self-esteem.
I exercise for two reasons:
1.
I’m afraid of losing my mobility, and
2.
I’m afraid of not turning into my mother.
At 95, she runs --- not walks --- on her walker throughout
her managed care neighborhood. I have a newspaper front-page feature photo of
her here on my desk. She’s in her 70s with her leg in the air nearly over her head
during a Tai Chi class.
Once she retired from running around after four children, she
swam three times a week, rode her exercise bike 10 minutes every morning while
singing hymns, played shuffle board, and walked all over town to pay her bills
--- because why waste the postage stamp? Let’s not even get started on lawn
care, snow shoveling, or just about everything else she did to stay busy.
Her independence depended on two things:
1.
Her physical mobility, and
2.
Her driver’s license.
Collectively, they were freedom and independence.
Until while in her early 80s, the earlier symptoms of dementia
--- memory loss and confusion --- led to two auto accidents where no one else
was hurt but the time had come to surrender the driver’s license. *
Depression quickly followed as did further decline into
dementia. Her freedom, her independence had been yanked out from under her. I
felt them and understood fully how stranded, powerless, even valueless she
felt. I never get into my car now without understanding that while I still have
another good 20 years at least, this privilege is going to be lost by necessity
eventually --- and with it, my independence.
Fortunately, she’s still running strong on her walker and
swimming once a week. So, while I may be late coming to the whole value of exercise
lesson (She was a childhood athlete, I was not. Enough said), she modeled
fitness very well.
I’ll always have her hips. Just as long as I can have her
health as well.
Lesson learned.
*
Michigan has a program that allows non-family
members such as family doctors to make recommendations for the state to
reexamine an individual who’s driving may now be of concern. This program takes
the burden off of family members from confronting the issue with elderly family
members and redirects the anger away from the family as well. You may have to
find another doctor but family relationships are preserved.
What lessons have your elders taught
you without saying a word?
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